Resources
My goal here is to provide YOU with as much knowledge I can so that you feel confident to make decisions that are the best for you. I want to provide a consistently growing and up to date resource list for anything and everything sex and relationship related. Now hold onto your panties because this is going to get OVERWHELMING, but I promise that I will do my best to keep it organized, categorized, and relevant.
This is by no means an all-inclusive list and if you have recommendations, please feel free to reach out if you find additional resources that you deem to be helpful for you or would like a professional’s perspective.
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Come as You Are (Nagoski, PhD, 2021) - An overview of women’s sexuality. There is a workbook that helps you to work through understanding your own sexuality that I also recommend.
Come Together (Nagoski, PhD, 2025) - An overview of sex in long-term relationships. Also has a workbook to go through with you & your partner that I recommend.
Attached. (Levine and Heller, 2012) - A great overview of attachment styles
The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work (Gottman and Silver, 2015) - A lot of what I base a starting point of any relationship off of
Tell Me What You Want (Justin Lehmiller, PhD, 2020) - A great way to make you feel comfortable about your fantasies & desires
The State of Affairs (Esther Perel, 2018)
Want (Gillian Anderson, 2024) - Every woman+ with a fantasy should listen to this!
Eve (Cat Bohannon, 2023) - There is a version that is adapted for young adults as well!
All in Her Head (Elizabeth Comen, 2024) - Honestly, will fuel a fire for incompetencies in women’s healthcare. Advocate for yourself & others when appropriate!
Whipping Girl (Julia Serano, 2016) - What it means to be a transgender woman
Sexed Up (Julia Serano, 2022) *trans/LGBTQ+ & potentially triggering for sexual trauma survivors
Are You Mad At Me? (Meg Josephson, LCSW, 2025)
Perv (Jesse Bering, 2013) - erotic outliers & paraphilia. *may be triggering for some
For the Love of Men (Liz Plank, 2019) - “…smart, insightful, and deeply-researched guide for what we’re all going to do about toxic masculinity.”
It Begins With You (Jillian Turecki, 2025) - Take this one with a grain of salt, but I like the overall message it gives… noooot very scientific
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If you’re the nerdy kind.
Lindeman, Thuen, and Rune Zahl Olsen (2025). Participants' Experiences With the In-Person and Online Gottman Seven Principles Program for Couples Enhancement: A Qualitative Study
Chadwick and van Anders (2017). Do Women’s Orgasms Function as a Masculinity Achievement for Men?
Michael N. Pham, Todd K. Shackelford (2013). Oral sex as mate retention behavior
Haupert, M. L., Gesselman, A. N., Moors, A. C., Fisher, H. E., & Garcia, J. R. (2017). Prevalence of Experiences With Consensual Nonmonogamous Relationships: Findings From Two National Samples of Single Americans. Journal of Sex & Marital Therapy
Jankowiak, W.R., Volsche, S.L. and Garcia, J.R. (2015), Is the Romantic–Sexual Kiss a Near Human Universal? AMERICAN ANTHROPOLOGIST
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Relationships:
Anatomy, Sexual Health and Education:
Intimacy:
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Smut, It’s like porn for your ears ;)
Outlander - Book by Diana Gabaldon, but I honestly prefer the show. Part of it is on Netflix, but Showtime is where you can find the whole thing. I’m OBSESSED!
God of Malice (Rina Kent, 2025) - kink friendly
Keep Me (Sara Cate, 2024)
Sugar Daddies (Jade West, 2020)
Neon Gods (Katee Roberts, 2021) - Series of 10 books!
Filthy Rich Vampire (Geneva Lee, 2023) - Series of 4 books!
A Curse of Blood and Wolves (Melissa McTernan, 2023)
Hungerstone (Kat Dunn, 2025) more romance/horror if you’re looking for that sort of thing
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